Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body,
but rather to skid in broadside, totally worn out & proclaiming “Wow, What a Ride!”

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

meal ideas ~ spooky sliders & mummy meals

Ogre and Pumpkin Sliders
Both versions of these mini turkey burgers are delicious. Family and guests can choose the kind they like the best, or they can enjoy one of each!

1 egg 
1 cup soft bread crumbs
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 pound ground turkey
5 teaspoons prepared pesto
3 miniature fresh mozzarella cheese balls, halved
3 pimiento-stuffed olives, halved widthwise
5 slices process American cheese
10 hamburger buns, split

In a large bowl, combine the egg, bread crumbs and salt. Crumble turkey over mixture; mix well. Shape into ten 2-1/2-in. patties. Grill, broil or pan-fry for 5-7 minutes on each side or until a meat thermometer reads 165° and juices run clear.

Drop 1 teaspoon pesto onto five burgers; top each with a mozzarella ball half and an olive half.

Cut eyes, nose and mouth from each cheese slice to create a jack-o'-lantern. Place cheese on five burgers; cook until cheese is slightly melted, about 30 seconds. Serve burgers on buns.
Yield: 10 sandwiches.

Yummy Pork Mummy
If you're looking for the perfect main entree for a Halloween dinner party, look no further. The pork stays moist under the pyllo "wrappings," and the sauce adds a dijon zip that guests won't soon forget. —

3/4 cup heavy whipping cream
1/4 cup Dijon mustard
2 teaspoons minced fresh thyme or 1/2 tsp dried
1 pork tenderloin (about 1 pound)
2 teaspoons olive oil
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon pepper
10 sheets phyllo dough (14 inches x 9 inches)
6 tablespoons butter, melted
1 medium apple, peeled

In a small skillet, bring cream and mustard to a boil. Reduce heat; simmer, uncovered, for 10-15 minutes or until mixture is reduced to about 2/3 cup. Remove from the heat; stir in thyme.

Meanwhile, place pork on a rack in a shallow baking pan. Brush with oil; sprinkle with salt and pepper. Broil 6 in. from the heat for 6 minutes. Remove from the oven; cool slightly. Change oven temperature to 400°.

Set aside 1/2 cup mustard mixture for serving; spread remaining mixture over the pork. Place one sheet of phyllo dough on a work surface; brush with butter. (Keep remaining phyllo dough covered with plastic wrap and a damp towel to prevent it from drying out.) Repeat layers four times. Place pork on one edge of phyllo dough; roll up tightly to form mummy's body and tuck in ends.

Place another sheet of phyllo dough on a work surface; brush with butter. Repeat layers three times. Cut into thin strips; wrap around pork tenderloin bundle.

Cut remaining sheet of phyllo dough in half; brush with remaining butter. Cut a 1-in. cube from the apple; wrap in prepared phyllo dough. Position at the wide end of bundle for a head. Save remaining apple for another use. Discard remaining phyllo dough.

Place bundle in an ungreased shallow baking pan. Bake, uncovered, for 15-20 minutes or until a meat thermometer reads 160°. Transfer to a serving platter. Let stand for 10 minutes before slicing. Serve with reserved mustard sauce. Yield: 4 servings.

recipes from: Taste of Home Test Kitchen

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

healthy living~ six simple moves

Try these classic and simple poses. ~ 
                             you can't argue about the benefits of yoga.

According to many accounts yoga began more than 5,000 years ago as a secret tradition, whose devoted practitioner entered deep stated of meditation with a eye toward becoming enlightened. Fast-forward a few millennia, and the practice has gone through plenty of its own strange contortions-many focusing exclusively on the physical benefits.

While a regular practice can help you manage your weight, increase strength and flexibility, deepen your breathing and relax and recharge your nervous system, what makes yoga unique is its multifaceted, whole-person approach. I remember a friend describing yoga: “Yoga provokes you to compassionately observe yourself in order to understand your motivations and aspirations in all your interactions, and to recognize the expansive and downright beautiful qualities of your own heart.”

For me: I never seem to be able to relax in a class atmosphere or even use a video at home…too busy listening or looking to really get “the drift” of what I am suppose to be doing. However… I have found six simple moves that I can do in the mornings or evenings…with ease that works with my body overweight or just the right weight. No contortions that are painful or difficult and it gets to the point; taking a moment to “stop- breathe- relax- renew.”

Remember to breathe deeply—try the reverse breathing I have mentioned in past posts. Where the exhaled breath is your start *1 exhaling to 10* and the inhaled is the finish *11 inhaling to 20* making each cycle last to the count of 20.

Try these the next moment you have; you may be surprise at the huge results for such a little bit of time. They are so simple that I believe only their names and photographs can tell you what you need to do. Move from a simple standing position into these slowly, hold for a few breaths and return- how many? however many you like. enjoy.


CHAIR                                                             BLOWN PALM




 Alternate Nostril Breathing- Alternate nostril breathing is also a kind of yoga that enhances your ability to concentrate. Sit and hold your right nostril closed with a finger. Inhale through the left then hold the left and exhale through the right one. Now repeat the same activity but starting with the opposite nostril. Do it for 5-6 minutes regularly as it is a great way that clears your mind and helps you to concentrate.  MORE IMPORTANTLY… I use this to lower my blood pressure. I can take a 180 systolic down to 120’s in minutes. no joke!

Monday, October 29, 2012

countdown to extraordinary

It is the end of October already, this year has passed with lightening speed, at least for me. This has also been a year of anticipated excitement.  It is the year of 12-21-12 a significant year for all. I personally have waited for this year since I first heard about it 40 years ago. Doomsday? Don’t think so!  Something unusual, something fantastic that doesn’t happen but in a few lifetimes…yes.  Like the millennium- wow, guys, how many people can say they experienced the changeover of 1000 years? And it happened in our lifetime.  There have been leaps and bounds of good and bad human progress in the last 100, but you can stand there in this consciousness and say I lived in two millennium lifetimes. That to me is… awesome.

I have read a lot about this… 12-21-12  phenomenon, all the doomsday talk, all the philosophy, all the scientific data and still do not know exactly what is going to happen… other than the outstanding astronomical event of the alignment in our solar system.  An event that only happens every 26,000 years… that in itself is exciting… and it is happening in MY earthly lifetime where I can experience it fully.

 There is one book out there “The Mystery of 2012” Predictions, Prophecies, & Possibilities that contains articulate and lucid essays from dozens of prominent thinkers, researchers, scientists, and theologians. It's a broad understanding of what intelligent minds are thinking.

Most of all the talk narrows down to the ending of the Mayan calendar, so let’s look at that…

Since the Mayan calendar is based on cycles, December 21, 2012 merely indicates the end of a cycle that began on August 11, 3114 BC. While there are wild interpretations as to what this date means, and many holiday resorts are booked out on this day, there is no evidence from any Mayan literature suggesting that the world will come to an end.

 It is simply the end of the current Long Count, and December 22, 2012 will be the beginning of the next Long Count, or cycle in the Mayan calendar. In fact, the Mayans have names for the Long Counts, and the fact that they've named Long Counts beyond this one suggests that this won't be the last. It is significant, however, that we are entering a new cycle in the Mayan calendar.

What Will The Next Mayan Long Count, Or Epoch, Bring?
Assuming, as we did above, that the world will not come to an end on December 21, 2012 - we ask ourselves, what will happen? What is so significant about December 21, 2012? The significance lies not merely in the fact that a Mayan epoch is coming to an end, but in the celestial events that astronomists have confirmed will occur on this day.

What Happens On December 21, 2012?
December 21 is the winter solstice, and in 2012 the Sun on the solstice will be almost perfectly aligned with the plane of the galaxy (the Milky Way galaxy). What is astonishing is how precisely the Mayan calendar was able to pinpoint this alignment of the planets.

What's So Special About Planets Aligning?
The equator of the Milky Way galaxy (Galactic Equator) and the path of the Sun (the Ecliptic) will cross each other at exactly 11:11 am GMT on December 21, 2012. What does this mean exactly? Or, even better, what is the probability of this occurring?

Every year on the winter solstice, our Sun has a Declination of -23.5 degrees, and a Right Ascension of 18 hours. But what makes the alignment of 2012 special is how this alignment occurs relative to very distant stars. On December 21, 2012, the alignment will be right along the plane of the entire galaxy. This precession of the equinoxes goes in a complete circle and happens only once every 26,000 years. In other words, the winter solstice moves 360 degrees every 26,000 years, or 0.01 degrees each year.

A significant detail that promoters of the 2012 doomsday fail to point out, however, is that the plane of the galaxy is not the width of a needle. The plane of the galaxy is quite wide - in fact, it takes the winter solstice between 700 hundred and 1,400 years to cross the plane of the galaxy! So 2012 is just one year amidst a span of 700 years.

We Are Entering a New Mayan Epoch
Did the Mayans know something about 2012 that we don't? I think more significant than the fact that the planets align in 2012 is the fact that we are entering a new Mayan epoch, or Long Count. While the pundits will be focused on doomsday prophecies and the destruction of the world, those pondering our purpose may find themselves enlightened by a greater perspective - one that may not be clear until hundreds or thousands of years from now.

According to the Mayans we are entering a new age. What does this mean? I think it may have something to do with the shift towards a more Eastern, or spiritualist, way of life. The Western way of life, and the worship of material goods, progress, and capitalism, has accelerated its way headfirst into battles and wars for hundreds of years. Hopefully, our race will eventually elevate itself to a new era of understanding - one where we find ourselves to be more introspective, and spending our time pondering not only the bigger questions of life - but the smaller ones as well. Spending more quality time with our loved ones, and enjoying the moment...because we feel there will be many more to come, not fear the end.

Monday, October 22, 2012

loss and learning~ living life

Last week was one of loss and learning. on wednesday I announced the passing of my father-in-law, who I have known for longer than my own father....actually this man had become my "dad. " However, his passing was okay, I was okay with it, as was my husband. Ed was 90, beginning second-stage Alzheimer and had some cardiac  issues that should have taken him away from us a while ago....he wasn't ready then, tuesday night was time. I hail his passing with a bravo, you did it, you lived!

The second loss was one that has a pain associated with it that is indescribable; no words can describe the emotions that spin around in your heart, mind, and life. Anyone who has had an animal friend and companion may understand.

Jesse, our bernese mountain dog and family member, developed an illness and we found that it was time for him to take a new path.  I don't think it was wrong or will not regret doing so, but I made Jesse a part of my life in every aspect that he allowed.

There was not much done in my day that did not include him in some way, even if it was him just lying near me listening to me read my writings aloud, or just get issues off my chest. If I went shopping he went with me or if not he at least carried in the packages upon my return. He made sure we were up bright and early to take our walks and get our needed exercise...and chase bunnies off everyone's lawns.

Ursa, the family friend before Jesse, was the same, left a mark on my soul that will be everlasting. We’ve had other friends that will always be in my heart with great memories, but nothing like Ursa and now Jesse.

I believe now that it is intrinsic within me to love these creatures with a tenacity that surprises me. This could be a problem when we get to Colorado, because face it folks...I will be dealing with lots of animals...and they are going to pass on, get hurt, be loved.  (except for the food...don't name the food....:) !)

A friend emailed me during this time with Jesse and told me about her friend who retired to breed and sell miniature donkey's.... she now has 24 because she can't bear to sell them- they're her babies.

I am letting the emotion come, feel it with the intensity it chooses, let it pass, and when it has done so, a voice in my head says:

 "praise be to the soul that left such a mark upon yours as to create such feeling. how was I so lucky to have been chosen to be a part of his life?”

                                                              ...our souls will cross again

Sunday, October 21, 2012

lois & page

be happy
be loving
be true to each other
but most of all…

be best friends forever!

happy wedding day 

all my love,
thank you for understanding my absence on this very special day.

Friday, October 19, 2012

~~ jesse ~~

 jessup tamu rafiki
 (swahili- jesse a gentle friend)

12-7-2004 ~ 10-19-2012

jesse j
the moose
boo-boo bear

jesse's recent illness had a terminal destination. we did not want to wait until he laid unable to move, could not bark a last bark of excitement,  or have to be carried lethargic, in pain, panting his last breath, to the rainbow bridge. 

jesse left us with a sparkle in eyes, a wag in his tail, 
and, although weakened, bounce to his step

this morning bunny and I escorted Jesse to his new destination with a  love that filled the skies and a thank you, that can never be expressed with words, for being my friend.

visit BernerTails we will celebrate his life~

margeaux, steve, tiera "the cat," and "bunnie"

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Fizz and Jesse, a queen and her king

Dolyhir Seasons Sunset

I have mentioned to everyone that Jesse has a lady friend, that was born in Wales, lives in Kent at a beautiful place called Berntoak.  Her name is Fizz – aka: Seasons Sunset, and she is a beautiful bernese mountain dog like Jesse.

Fizz’s mummy recently finished a short story she had been working on about Fizz that has Jesse, her king, in it; I think everyone would love to read.

I might add that the villain in the story is another bernese who bit the ear of Fizz’s real daddy once and Fizz has never forgotten or forgiven. ha!

here’s a link to the story:
to Fizz’s  home~ Bernese Mountain Dogs @ Berntoak        

    --- and she is a ribboned show dog… without an attitude.

and to the Dolyhir Bernese Mountain Dogs- where a litter of pups have just been born, lots of fun stories come out of this holding in Wales.

this is the picture that Jesse saw when he fell “head-over-tail” in love

this is one of the cards sent to jesse by Fizz 

 (Liz finished the story when I was not feeling well this summer and I haven't thanked her proper for giving me a wonderful smile and… lasting memory…
 thank you Liz!!!

Liz also has a blog that features her allotment in England which is fun, especially for gardening lovers.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Edward J~

 38 years ago on a thanksgiving weekend I met my father-in-law
yesterday we said a loving farewell to "Dad" 
thank you for taking me into your home, into your heart,
 for teaching me patience, and enhancing my life by crossing paths with mine.

Edward Joseph Ulbrich
1-29-1922 ~ 10-16-2012

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

healthy living~ going nuts for a new KIND of bar

I love snack bars and with diabetes I have to be very careful of the kind of snack bars I eat- and you do have to be careful, even Glucerna… a diabetes bar, has its downfalls, mainly chemicals & sugar alcohols. I have found the Luna bars are better, but they too have problems- high carbs with loads of fats that help slow the sugar rush…and worst of all they taste yucky sweet to me.

BUT WAIT… Margeaux found something that just may be the ticket!!! On my way to Colorado I ran across a bar (traveling is when I really need something) that satisfied my munch need, tasted absolutely scrumptious, and…. did not raise my blood sugar one tinsey bit. It had just enough sweet for me with a true nut flavor.

KIND Nuts & Spices is a line of bars finely crafted from the highest quality whole nuts and nature's most delicious spices. Each seemingly indulgent recipe provides all natural protein, fiber and only 5g of sugar (or less), in some of their newer bars.
(CAUTION: they have some that are just like all the rest as far as high sugar content, so look for the ones that say on the package “only 5g or 4g of sugar”  And with only 14g or 16g carbs, this is almost a “free food” for diabetics.

And nothing artificial!!!!

How many times have you heard me rant and rave about things that say they are natural and have a ton of chemicals in them (especially cosmetics.) Well, these don’t, they say natural ingredients and they are.

Here are the ones I tried…—be careful, even too much of “healthy” is unhealthy.  One a day is enough for anyone.  Serving Size : 1 Bar (40g)

Ingredients : Mixed nuts (almonds, peanuts, cashews, walnuts), chicory root fiber, honey, palm kernel oil, sugar, crisp rice, cocoa powder, non GMO glucose, sea salt, soy lecithin, milk powder, vanilla extract.

Calories : 200
Fat Calories : 140
Total Fat : 15g
Saturated Fat : 3.5g
Trans Fat : 0g
Cholesterol : 0mg
Sodium : 125mg
Potassium : 210mg
Total Carb : 16g
Dietary Fiber : 7g
Sugars : 5g
Protein : 6g

Ingredients : Mixed nuts (peanuts, almonds, pecans, cashews), chicory root fiber, honey, palm kernel oil, sugar, non GMO glucose, crisp rice, cocoa powder, cinnamon, soy lecithin, milk powder, salt, vanilla extract.

Calories : 200
Fat Calories : 140
Total Fat : 16g
Saturated Fat : 3.5g
Trans Fat : 0g
Cholesterol : 0mg
Sodium : 20mg
Potassium : 190mg
Total Carb : 16g
Dietary Fiber : 7g
Sugars : 5g
Protein : 5g

Ingredients : Cashews, almonds, peanuts, chicory root fiber, honey, non GMO glucose, crisp rice, ginger, sugar, spices, soy lecithin.

Calories : 200
Fat Calories : 130
Total Fat : 14g
Saturated Fat : 2
Trans Fat : 0g
Cholesterol : 0mg
Sodium : 15mg
Potassium : 190mg
Total Carb : 16g
Dietary Fiber : 5g
Sugars : 4g
Protein : 6g

Ingredients : Mixed nuts (almonds, peanuts, cashews, walnuts), honey, non GMO glucose, chicory root fiber, crisp rice, Madagascar vanilla, soy lecithin.

Serving Size : 1 Bar (40g)
Calories : 210
Fat Calories : 140
Total Fat : 16g
Saturated Fat : 2
Trans Fat : 0g
Cholesterol : 0mg
Sodium : 15mg
Potassium : 210mg
Total Carb : 14g
Dietary Fiber : 5g
Sugars : 4g
Protein : 7g

Monday, October 15, 2012

colorado~ bare trees and baby bumps

good morning everyone… it is a cold cold day in Colorado… imagine…. we have had fires in the BenFrankin the last couple of days. yippee. I bet California is still in shorts.  

i thought i would make this posting short with a few photos you may enjoy. it is beautiful here even with the aspen in their winter wear, here are a couple of pictures comparing spring and autumn- sorry thought I would have two that matched perfectly, but this will give you an idea. No snow yet, but a few quick flurries to remind me it is around the corner.

spring 6-12
autumn 10-12
the girls, Babe and Zilla, are still on the ranch, looking very pregnant and doing great. the rains the last few weeks have finally brought some grass to the pastures.

they love to sun themselves in the sunrise after a chilly autumn night

Thursday, October 11, 2012

healthy living ~ it's time to make vanilla extract

I know I have posted this often, at least once a year…but there really is nothing like making and using your own Vanilla Extract AND… with the holidays just around the corner NOW is the last chance you have for making some to give as gifts and/or use in those Christmas treats. Over the next month I’ll show some ways to package this elixir and recipes ideas. It is very fun to tell people that the vanilla used was homemade. 

I suggest it is worth the energy to make one batch using vodka and one using bourbon that way you can judge for yourself which “zing” you prefer.

Making your own Vanilla Extract is extremely easy, and is much less expensive than purchasing it. And more importantly... I know the quality of the ingredients it was made with.

 First you need premium grade vanilla beans to get a good product. (Not the dried up ones you find in the stores sometimes). Not all vanilla beans are created the same!

- 3-4 whole organic Vanilla Beans
- 1 cup vodka (traditional) or sometimes I use brandy or bourbon 

Split Vanilla Beans lengthwise with a knife, leaving the seeds inside intact. Place Vanilla Beans in a large jar, cover with alcohol, and cap tightly. Agitate the mixture by shaking the jar daily for 4-6 weeks. You can infuse the Vanilla Beans for as long as you would like, and add new Vanilla Beans to make a stronger extract.

Once that the flavor of the extract has reached the desired strength you will need to strain the resulting extract out of the jar and into new bottles. To make the bottles even more alluring, you can insert a new Vanilla Bean into each bottle and create a decorative label. Vanilla extract will last indefinitely, and will become even more aromatic and flavorful as it ages. Homemade Vanilla Extract may be used in exactly the same manner as commercial Vanilla Extract.

 You can also make vanilla sugar by putting a split vanilla bean into a jar of white, granulated sugar. Great way to infuse the sugar with vanilla flavor for baking.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

meal ideas~ herbed chicken and mushrooms

It is finally getting cooler… yippie, because my favorite part of cold weather is cooking and eating soups, stews, and “slowcooked” meals. Using a slow cooker is the most convenient way to have a wonderful hot meal at the end of the day without a lot of fuss and mess at mealtime. This is a favorite fall meal; it also serves as a comfort food for me as well. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

Herbed Chicken and Mushrooms
MAKES: 6 servings (2 chicken thighs, 2/3 cup vegetable mixture, and 1/2 cup cooked noodles) Carbs: 29, Calories:306 (if you are diabetic, which this is a friendly recipe, and need to cut the carbs further... delete the noodles, put in a bowl with the juices from the crock eat as a stew)

5 cups sliced assorted fresh mushrooms (such as shiitake, button, cremini, and oyster)
1 medium onion, chopped (1/2 cup)
1 medium carrot, chopped (1/2 cup)
1/4 cup dried tomato pieces (not oil-packed)
3/4 cup reduced-sodium chicken broth
1/4 cup dry white wine or reduced-sodium chicken broth
3 tablespoons quick-cooking tapioca
1 teaspoon dried thyme, crushed
1/2 teaspoon dried basil, crushed
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 - 1/2 teaspoon black pepper
12 small chicken thighs and/or drumsticks (about 3 pounds total), skinned
3 cups hot cooked whole wheat spinach fettuccine or linguine, or hot cooked brown rice
Snipped fresh basil (optional)
1. In a 4- to 5-quart slow cooker combine mushrooms, onion, carrot, and dried tomato pieces. Add chicken broth and wine. Sprinkle with tapioca, thyme, dried basil, salt, and pepper. Add chicken pieces to cooker.

2. Cover and cook on low-heat setting for 7 to 8 hours or on high-heat setting for 3 1/2 to 4 hours.

3. Put a serving of the pasta or rice on your dish and then transfer some of the chicken and vegetables. Spoon some of the cooking liquid over the top. and enjoy. If desired, garnish with fresh basil.
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Tuesday, October 9, 2012

healthy living~ make your own balm

I love lip balm. I keep lip balm in my purse, in the car, in the pocket of every coat, by my computer, the list goes on. This lip balm is also great used on your cuticles and dry elbows.

Making your own lip balm and/or gloss is simple, very economical, and it is truly rewarding. By making your own lip balm, you know what products are going into it, and that you are using safe ingredients.  They also make great gifts...and the gift giving holidays are coming quickly.

The best place I have found to purchase products for your lip balm is They have everything you will need and for the best price on the market. 
              Have fun, but be aware…it is addicting.

Lip Balm
2 Tablespoons Almond oil
1 Tablespoon Coconut oil
1 1/3 Tablespoons Beeswax
15 drops essential oil of choice (my favorite is Vanilla or Birch -very healing and smells like wintergreen. Really any one that you like just think cooling)

    You can purchase a small melter like this one or... in a small crock pot or double boiler (you can just use and Pyrex glass measuring cup in a sauce pan of simmering water if you don't have either of those) melt the beeswax and the coconut oil. Then add the Almond oil stir with a wooden stick, a skewer or something like that works good.  When everything is melted stir in the essential oil. 

    If filling lip balm tube a medicine dropper works best.  You need to remember this will start to set up fast so however you decide to put it into containers you need to act quickly before it hardens.  Makes about 10 tubes, 6 1/4oz. jars, or 3 1/2 oz tins.  If you are going to keep it in a warmer place and not use it within 6 months to a year you may want to add a few drops of Vitamin E Oil to the mixture.  It's a great moisturizer and preservative. You can also purchase shrink-wrap tube and bottle covers to secure the contents for tamper resistance packaging. 

My favorite bees wax brand is from the Bee Rescued people. Who sell wonderful lip balm, but that is not nearly as much fun. Their wax is the best!!! and can be found in your local health food store. Sprouts Food is where I purchase mine.

Monday, October 8, 2012

synchronicity gives me a "hey"

An uncontrollable event happened in my life that caused me to be an angry teenager, although I did not acknowledge it until my young adulthood, I finally found someone to help me deal with the habitual anger and that “angry person” was soon gone from my life.

However, recently I have been angry about all sorts of things, every day there is something that I allow to fester within. Sometimes silly things; something important- but none so much that it needs to control my day or days as it seems. And lately, some have. I was letting a work matter fester and flourish yesterday morning as I was trying to think of what write about for today’s post.  As I sat down….with an angry plop…still carrying on about my work matter… I noticed Madisyn Taylor’s book “Daily OM” on my desk and decided to pop into her website and see what she had going on… here is her post for yesterday.

(You would think after all these years I wouldn’t be surprised when life throws a little synchronicity my way.)

by Madisyn Taylor : Daily OM ~ October 5, 2012

Anger can easily become our go-to emotion; to remedy,
 start noticing when and why you get angry.

Sometimes when we feel anger, it is coming from a deep place that demands acknowledgment and expression. At these times, it is important that we find healthy ways to honor our anger, remembering how dangerous it is to repress it. However, anger can also become a habit, our go-to emotion whenever things go wrong. Often this is because, for whatever reason, we feel more comfortable expressing anger than we do other emotions, like sadness. It can also be that getting angry gives us the impression that we’ve done something about our problem. In these cases, our habitual anger is inhibiting both our ability to express our other emotions and to take action in our lives.

If it’s true that anger is functioning this way in your life, the first thing you might want to try is to notice when you get angry. You might begin to see a pattern of some kind. For example, you could notice that it is always your first response or that it comes up a lot in one particular situation. If the pattern doesn’t become clear right away, you could try keeping a journal about when you get angry and see if you can find any underlying meaning. The good thing about keeping a journal is that you can explore your anger more deeply in it—from examining who in your family of origin expressed a lot of anger to how you feel when you encounter anger in others. This kind of awareness can be a formidable agent of transformation.

Anger can be a powerful ally, since it is filled with energy that we can harness and use to create change in the world. It is one of the most cathartic emotions, and it can also be a very effective cleanser of the emotional system. However, when it becomes a habit, it actually loses its power to transform and becomes an obstacle to growth. Identifying the role anger plays in your life and restoring it to its proper function can bring new energy and expansiveness to your emotional life.

my quest is…. have I become habitually angry again…and why…and what is the underlying matter? Okay, so here comes another journal I will keep until I figure this out.

If you haven’t seen or read the “Daily OM” you really need to check out Madisyn Taylor’s books and website. The Daily OM features a universal approach to holistic living for the mind, body, and spirit and supports people who want to live a conscious lifestyle.